RSS FeedsHow important is proper death notification to a family of a loved one important to that family’s grieving?
I am seeking a response from a trained grief therapist. My family found out about the murders of our daughter and two grandchildren when an attorney blurted it out in court. The murderer (our son-in-law, and the attorney’s client) was on trial for sexual abuse. We, the family, were waiting for the trial to resume when the murderer’s attorney blurted out the deaths to us in open court. Our son-in-law killed his wife and children (our daughter and grandchildren) and then turned the gun on himself the night before he was to take the stand in his own defense. That was the first anyone knew of the murders – rescue personnel had just found the bodies. Our son-in-law’s attorney walked up to us in the courtroom, blurted out the news and then kept on walking, refusing to answer our questions. He didn’t bother to tell the judge or prosecutor – just us. It was as if we were devastated twice. We have yet to receive an apology from the attorney. I believe the callous way in which the news was delivered is hampering our healing. Am I right? It’s been 8 months now….
OMG how terrible i am so sorry to hear of your loss and praying for your family